It's not skipping a gear, what you are feeling is the torque converter unlock prior to shifting. This is normal.
As for the lack of balls, i dunno. With 4.56s you should have sufficient leverage.
How many miles you got on the motor?
Any fluid consumption? (other than gas)
When you say it's killing your gas mileage, what are you getting? Around 10-12 is about normal for a gasser with lift and tires.